Emotional vampires are weak: how to protect yourself from them

Whether in childhood (relatives) or in adult life (family, partner or friends), these emotional vampires take advantage of the good will and empathy of their victims to cling to them and absorb all their vital energy.

They play with the emotions of their partners or their children to feed their ego, making them believe that they are the important ones, the ones who care for and support the other. They convince them that they depend on them and that they could not do anything in life if they left their side. They are responsible for cutting their emotional ties from their victim with the rest of his contacts to have absolute control and leave him no escape route. In the meantime, the person who is subjected under his yoke, finds less and less outlet and feels like his life is slipping away… until he goes to therapy.

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In this article we will see how we work in therapy the case of Maríaa person subjected from the beginning of his life by his mother and, later, by an abusive boss from which he could not escape.

Do they steal your energy?

At the beginning of her therapy, Maria told me about a recurring dream she had; rather, she was a nightmare from which I always woke up with a terrible sense of anguish.

In her dream, Maria was lying in an old hospital bed, very weak and with barely the energy to move her eyes and look around her. The room was dim and she could vividly smell that chemical mix of strong cleaning products and medicines typical of medical centers.

Next to his bed, in the chair set aside for his companion, sat a tall figure, wearing a hat and a cloak that almost hid him completely. He could only see her wrinkled hand and his long fingernails. The place where his face should be was even darker than the gloom of the room.

In addition, this sinister character sat in a strange way, squatting, with his feet on the chair and holding his knees with his arms.

At first, Maria had the impression that this being, in some way, was accompanying and caring for her. However, as she watched him and took in the details, she realized what was really happening.

In the dream, María had a syringe in her arm, connected to a tube, through which she assumed that she was being administered some type of serum. Following the route, she realized that the tube was not directed towards any IV bag, but towards that dark being.

It was not a serum for which they gave him food or medication, what really happened is that this being was vampirizing her, he stole her life energy to feed on her. If she tried to move, the vampire told her “calm down, don’t do anything, I’ll take care of you”, but he felt weaker and weaker. At this point in the dream, Maria used to wake up sweating and distraught.

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Working, in our sessions, the symbology of this nightmare, Maria identified this being with several people in her life who had treated her exactly the same as this character. She was able to see her mother, her former boss, and several of her previous partners.

The pattern was very similar, they made her feel that she was weak and needy, that they cared about her and took care of her, when in reality, they kept her weak and sick to take advantage of her and steal her energy.

all these people they had convinced her that she was not valid and that he needed others in order to have a full life.

However, the fact that the vampire was feeding on her gave her the key to understanding how these people work. She wasn’t the weak one, but the others made her feel weak to keep her under their control. In reality, this being was the one that felt empty and lifeless, so it needed someone’s vitality to feed itself.

Of course he was old and emaciated, but not because he was a sinister being who wanted to be scary, but because it was he who was weak, about to die, and he needed to suck all the energy out of his victim to stay alive.

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Maria was realizing all that she had done for the emotional vampires in her life. She was always the one he had fixed his boss’s problems, avoiding the company millionaire losses; had helped their partners to advance in their jobs, while she was stuck; during her childhood and adolescence, She had been a cook, cleaner and caretaker for her mother, neglecting their own studies.

Ultimately, he realized she was the one who was really valid and had plenty of capacity to develop and have a full life, while the others were the weak ones who needed it to support themselves.

After all this work, Maria told me that she had dreamed of her hospital room again, but this time, the dream had been very different.

Recalling what she had seen in her sessions, Maria mentally repeated “I can, I am the valid one”. With great effort, he managed to move his hand to pinch the tube that connected him to the vampiric being. At that moment, his life fluid stopped reaching the monster and stopped feeding it. The vampire jerked compulsively and fell to the ground screaming.

Maria regained her energy and was able to get out of bed. She removed the tube that she had hooked on her arm and headed for the door. She saw that, outside, there was a bright garden full of flowers. It wasn’t her who was limited, but the vampire, who didn’t even have the strength to leave the room.

“Stay here. You are not going to vampirize me anymore” she told him before leaving the room to enter the garden.

This was the last time Maria had this type of dream. She never dreamed again of the hospital room or the vampire sucking the life out of her.

Emotional vampires are weak: how to protect yourself from them