Vampires, traditionally, are those creatures of the night that feed by absorbing the blood of their victims. This figure is well known around the world, thanks in part to books like dracula of Bram Stoker or movies like Twilight, without going any further. Such is the influence of this mythological figure that it has been used to name a personality: there are people who are “emotional vampires”.
A person can be called an emotional vampire when they have the ability to absorb all the positive energy of those around them and transform it into negativity, so that they end up becoming a toxic person. For example, if I tell you that he is a person who always explains to you that everything is going wrong in his life, that he never asks you how you are and that you even end up being afraid to tell him the good things that happen to you so as not to make him feel worse… Surely someone you know comes to mind, right?
This personality is more common than we can think, and the reality is that it ends up “sucking” all the good vibes, both in the short and long term, since you can end up feeling emotional fatigue, an exhaustion related to those feelings of stress and anxiety because of the attitude of that emotional vampire.
How to recognize an emotional vampire?
The people we consider emotional vampires are not always the same: each person is different and not all of these people have the same personality. However, there are a number of traits by which you can easily distinguish an emotional vampire. Take note:
- Very pessimistic: Perhaps it is the clearest sign of all. There’s no way he sees that one thing can go right for him: Do you have an interview? He will think for sure that they will not catch him. Have a problem? He doesn’t think it will be fixed. Drop a piece of toast? He will always think he will land on the butter side. All his thoughts will always be negative, and the worst thing is that it can drag you to see the world in such a pessimistic way.
- Victimism by flag: Things can happen to everyone, and sometimes it’s the result of not doing the right thing. However, emotional vampires will always believe they are victims, never acknowledging that it may be due to their own mistake.
- Little empathy: an emotional vampire will always think that their problems are more important than those of other people. Therefore, since he will always want to play the role of victim to pity and draw more attention, he will seldom be interested in knowing how you are.
- Excessive criticism: an emotional vampire will always want to be above everyone else. What do you have a problem? Yours is fatter, for sure. In addition, he will always want to remain as if he knows the absolute truth of everything and those who are wrong are the rest. Surely, you will also notice that everything you do is likely to be criticized for him or her.
- Catastrophist: These people can turn a grain of sand into a desert. This means that when they have a problem, they will always put on the worst and, in their mind, that problem is much bigger than it really is. In addition, the paranoia that something serious could happen will always be present, so be careful not to end up hitting that thought!
- feeling helpless: It is possible that, being by his side, he gives you the feeling that he is a helpless person, that he practically cannot fend for himself. They try to be pitiful so that you focus your attention on him.
These are some of the most common characteristics of an emotional vampire. Therefore, if you have one nearby, be careful and keep your distance before their negativity also infects you.